
Couples Therapy Seattle
EFT Couples and Relationship Therapy in Seattle, WA
Are you struggling to communicate with your partner?
Do you find yourself getting stuck in the same fights over and over again? Maybe trust has been broken, intimacy has taken a backseat, or you simply are craving a deeper connection. If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, couples therapy may be something to consider.


We are here for help!
Here at Mettarel, we offer couples therapy to residents in the Greater Seattle Area, helping individuals at all life stages resolve conflict, build trust, improve communication, and rediscover intimacy. Our therapists are specially trained in experiential and somatic therapeutic modalities and can help you and your partner enact long lasting change. Contact us today to schedule a “Help Me Choose” session and find a Seattle couples counselor that is right for you.


Who is Couples Counseling For?
Couples counseling is not just for couples dealing with infidelity or a devastating event. Couples counseling is for anyone who wants to improve their relationship and create more closeness, whether that be emotionally or physically. Financial issues, children, career demands, and other life stressors can all put a strain on one's relationship. Couples counseling in Seattle can help repair the connection between you and your partner before it is too late.
Issues We Address in Couple Counseling
Here at Mettarel in Seattle, our therapists address a wide range of issues during couples therapy. This includes but is not limited to:
Relationship distress
Past trauma
Sexuality, Intimacy, and Kink
A lack of emotional connection
Inability to express one's needs or wants
Betrayals including infidelity
Issues with physical intimacy or sex
A constant cycle of negativity or feeling “stuck”
Patterns of arguing or dissatisfaction
Breakdowns in communication
Sexual Trauma
Dysfunction or conflict
Life Transitions and Identity

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy in Seattle
At Mettarel, we use proven techniques and therapeutic methods based on an evidence-based modality known as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery in 10-12 sessions and 90% show significant improvement. Keep reading to learn more about EFT therapy and what it looks like at Mettarel.
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?
Developed in the 1980s, EFT is based on the science of attachment, as well as developmental psychology, neuroscience, and biology. It is designed to help clients restructure their emotional experiences, interactions, and patterns with others. The process of EFT involves identifying patterns of behavior and emotional response that may be causing relationship dysfunction and working to change those dynamics in order to rebuild trust, safety, and intimacy.
Emotionally Focused Therapy helps couples overcome relational distress and break free from patterns of disconnection, conflict, and isolation. Some goals of EFT for couples include:
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To restructure key emotional responses and promote the re-organization of one's sense of self.
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Invoke a positive shift in the ways in which partners interact with one another.
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Cultivate a secure bond between partners.
This evidence-based approach is grounded in decades of empirical research and is incredibly successful in promoting lasting, sustainable neurological change.

What You Can Expect From Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy?
During EFT couples therapy, you’ll work to examine the problematic or negative cycle that you and your partner are stuck in, as well as help you both explore and better understand your emotions. If you can better understand and regulate your emotions, you'll learn how to de-escalate conflict and communicate effectively, thus strengthening intimacy and trust. You can trust that our therapists will curate a supportive and non-judgmental environment where you and your partner feel comfortable to open up about your emotions and attachment styles.


In-Person & Online Couples Therapy in Seattle
At Mettarel, our Seattle couples counselors offer in-person and online couples therapy. Many couples find meeting in person more beneficial, while others prefer the privacy, comfort, and convenience of their own homes. Rest assured that we use HIPAA-compliant telehealth platforms for your peace of mind.

Get To Know Our Seattle Couples Therapists
Not Sure Which Seattle Couples Therapist is Right For You?
Schedule Your Help Me Choose Informational Appointment
If you are unsure which couples therapist is right for you and your partner, schedule a “help me choose” informational meeting. This is a quick 30-minute meeting with one of our therapists to discuss which of our therapists may be the best fit for you at this time.

Frequently Asked Questions About Couples Counseling in Seattle
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Who should apply to Mettarel?Mettarel is looking for therapists who are attachment enthusiasts. We are seeking candidates who are trained in and/or interested in providing excellent Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to clients. Our ideal candidate is passionate about attachment theory and EFT has compassionate and enthusiastic professional personalities works from a systemic orientation appreciates group consults with fellow therapists engages in many training opportunities works collaboratively and is a lifelong learner is licensed or has the ability to become licensed as a marriage and family therapist, mental health counselor, social worker, or psychologist in Washington State Any therapist who is an attachment enthusiast is encouraged to apply. Ideally you work from a systemic, humanistic model and you have a desire to work collaboratively with a team. Together we can reduce our overhead and do more. Please see "descriptions" and "current openings" for more information.
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What does compensation look like?At Mettarel, our therapists are employees, not contractors. Therapists are paid an hourly wage based on a client bill rate that takes into account their knowledge & education, experience, and credentials. Our therapists also receive paid time off, sick leave, and medical benefits. Mettarel strongly believes in encouraging/helping/assisting our therapists' growth and professional development, at all levels of experience and expertize, as we are lifelong learners. To that end, extensive supervision and training opportunities are offered as part of employment at Mettarel.
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What if I have more questions?Please feel free to schedule an "employment informational" appointment for an opportunity to ask Mettarel all your questions before applying. You can email scheduling@mettarel.com for help scheduling or for your convenience you may schedule directly here : schedule employment informational
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Why Mettarel?At Mettarel, we believe that together, we can do more. By pooling our resources and enthusiasm, the supportive environment at Mettarel allows us all to achieve more, learn more, and contribute more- working together to improve the community one relationship at a time. Mettarel provides full administrative support to our therapists. You can focus on your therapeutic work knowing that the scheduling, billing, accounting, marketing, and all the other administrative tasks are taken care of. Mettarel provides a reliable client referral flow and manages the initial scheduling, form completion, and billing. When you join Mettarel, you help us say, “Yes, we would love to help you!” to more clients instead of saying, “Sorry, we are at capacity.”
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How do I apply?To learn more about our current open positions and apply please click on the apply here link under your desired position on the open positions page. If you are selected for the next step you will get instructions on what those are within 3 days of your submission. Everyone will be contacted.
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Do you offer Pre-marital or pre-commitment counseling?Yes we offer pre-marriage counseling for couples. Pre-marriage counseling is a great time to discuss concerns, fears, hopes, ideas, and goals in order to build a strong foundation for marriage.
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Do you service couples outside of the Seattle area?Yes absolutely. While we are located in Fremont, Seattle, and mainly serve clients in the Greater Seattle area, we can gladly be of service to couples in Washington State via telehealth.
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Do you take insurance for couples therapy?While we are considered an out-of-network provider, depending on your policy, you may be eligible to receive reimbursement from your insurance provider. This means that you are responsible for paying for your therapy appointment at the time of service. However, you may request a superbill which can be submitted directly to your insurance company for potential reimbursement. To check your potential coverage, please click here.
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What methods do you use for couples counseling?We primarily use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is an evidence-based approach to couples counseling that focuses on emotions, emotion regulation, and attachment styles. The Gottman Method approach involves a “Gottman Relationship Check Up,” which is an assessment to identify the couple's strengths and areas of improvement. From there, couples incorporate nine successful relationship pieces that focus on building communication, trust, and intimacy. Both methods have proven highly effective for couples therapy.
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Can I also see my therapist individually?Sometimes either you or your partner will have issues, such as anxiety, depression, trauma, or grief, that you would like to work on individually. If this is the case, we absolutely recommend working with a therapist individually, however it will likely need to be a different counselor than your couples therapist.
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How do I get started with couples therapy?To get started with couples therapy at Mettarel, please schedule a “help me choose'' informational meeting. One of our team members will get to know you and your goals in order to suggest a therapist (inside or outside of Mettarel) who is the best fit for you at this time. If you already have a therapist in mind, please schedule an appointment here.
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How much does couples therapy in Seattle cost?The cost of couples therapy is not one size fits all. Each couples therapist at Mettarel has their own fee based upon various factors including their training and experience levels. You can view each individual therapist's fee on their individual web page which can be accessed here.
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Do you offer therapy outside of the Seattle area?Yes absolutely. Although we are primarily located in Seattle, our telehealth services extend to the entire state of Washington. However, please keep in mind that you must be physically present in Washington State for your therapy session due to license restrictions.
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How much does Individual therapy in Seattle cost?We offer a range of prices based on each therapist’s unique qualifications and experience. You can view each therapist's associate costs and fees here.
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How do I get started with therapy at Metteral?To get started with therapy at Metteral, please schedule a “help me choose'' informational session. This is a preliminary meeting where one of our supervisors will get to know you and your goals in order to recommend a therapist who is the best fit for you at this time. If you already have a preferred therapist in mind, we invite you to reserve an appointment here.
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Do you take insurance for therapy?We are considered an out-of-network provider. However, depending on your insurance policy and provider, you may be eligible to submit a superbill directly to your insurance company for reimbursement. Simply let your therapist know you’ll be needing a superbill, and they will provide you with it.